For many as are led by the by the Spirit of God they are the sons of God.
Roman 8:4
We don't want to miss God's best for our lives. We want to be held on a steady course by His guiding presence. So, where do we find that guidance, that leading? Let's start by looking at some of the essential prerequisites that help us determine God's will. Thankfully, these are neither ambiguous nor mysterious
1. First and foremost, you must be a Christian. Read (Roman 8:4). When you accept Christ as the Savior and Lord of your life, the Holy Spirit comes to dwell within you. Among other things. He is there to reveal the will of God to you. Only the believer has the Spirit's presence within, and we must have this inside help if we are going to follow the will of God.
2. Second you must be wise. "Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men, but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil" (Ephesians 5:15-16). Here a couple of examples of the foolishness that can occur when people attempt to decipher God's will in the wrong way. God tells us not to be foolish, but wise, making the most of our time, taking every opportunity that comes our way and using it wisely.
Before his twentieth birthday, Jonathan Edwards, the brilliant and godly philosopher theologian who became God's instrument in the Great Awakening revival of the eighteenth century, resolved "Never to lose one moment of time, but to improve it in the most profitable way I possibly can." That is exactly what he did, using well the intellectual gifts God had given him. He entered Yale at thirteen and at seventeen graduated at the head of his class. At twenty-six he was the minister of one of the largest congregation in Massachusetts.
Scripture says that doing the will of the Lord requires wisdom, for, as Paul writes in the next verse, those who are wise, those who are not foolish, "understand what the will of the Lord is." Following the will of God requires wisdom, clear thinking, and, yes, even good old garden variety common sense. Such a mixture of help us understand the Father's will.
3.Third you must really want to do the will of God. "If any man is willing to do His will, he shall know of the teaching, whether it is of God, or whether I speak from my Myself" (John 7. 17). Your "want to" is a greenlight: You really will do what He wants you to do. You really want to do the will of God more than anything else. More than completing your education, more than getting married, more than getting your house paid for; more than getting anything else you want to do the will of God.
Looking back on my own life, I know that there have been times when I said I wanted to do His will but I really didn't. That's a tough thing to confess, but looking back with 20/20 hindsight, I realize that at times I resisted His will. I've learned that serious consequences follow selfish resistance. The apostle Paul offers words of counsel to those who were enslaved. They have great meaning for in this context. "Slaves, be obedience to those who are your master according to the flesh, with fear and trembling in the sincerity of your heart, as to Christ," wrote Paul, not by way of eye service, as men pleasers but as slave of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart (Ephesians 6:5-6, emphasis added).
Doing the will of God from the heart that's as deep as it gets. More than pleasing people, more than staying comfortable and safe, you want to please God. You want to follow His will with all of your being.